DOMESTIC ABUSE INDICATORS

Call police117 in the Philippines, go to your nearest DSWD office, or barangay or dial 632-7355555 Indicators of Domestic Abuse Signs that a Women is being Abused: In general, women who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them. Some examples follow: the woman mentions not being able to use the telephone she is forbidden from seeing friends unless he is along the man has exclusive control over all money and household financial matters she is not allowed in the decision making process at home he won’t let her learn to drive, go to school, get a job she is limited in her freedom as a child would be. For example,"Go to the store, get milk and come straight home. It should take you 15 minutes" look for self-esteem, poor self-concept. The woman speaks very poorly of herself. She is unable to make eye contact, always looks away or at the ground when talking many times women complain of non-specific aches and pains that are constant and recurring. These are stress related problems. Signs that a Child is a victim of and/or witness to abuse (Stress-related problems): (primarily with boys) serious problems with temper tantrums continual fighting at school or between siblings lashing out at objects, inside or outside of the home treating pets cruelly or abusively threatening younger sister or brother with violence For instance, "You get over here with my teddy bear or I’ll kill you. I’ll slice you into little pieces with a knife" attempting to get attention through hitting, kicking or choking modeling after dad–"Monkey see, monkey do" ~~~ with girls, withdrawal, signs not so obvious occasional cringing if you raise your arm Source: YWCA Spouse Abuse Outreach Services of Southern Indian Volunteers Training Manual, 1985

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