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October 25, 2009

Anger management

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The term Anger management commonly refers to a system of psychological therapeutic techniques and exercises by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state. In some countries, courses in anger management may be mandated by their legal system.

One technique for controlling anger is finding agreement with another person rather than conflict. The use of deep breathing and meditation can be used as a means of relaxation. Other interventions include learning empathy, stress management skills, forgiveness, changing how you speak about yourself or others and improving optimism. As the issue of anger varies from person to person, the treatments are designed to be personal to the individual.

[edit] Methods of anger management

Psychologists recommend a balanced approach to anger, which both controls the emotion and allows the emotion to express itself in a healthy way. Some descriptions of actions of anger management are:

  • Direct, such as not beating around the bush, making behaviour visible and conspicuous, using body language to indicate feelings clearly and honestly, anger directed at persons concerned.
  • Honorable, such as making it apparent that there is some clear moral basis for the anger, being prepared to argue your case, never using manipulation or emotional blackmail, never abusing another person’s basic human rights, never unfairly hurting the weak or defenseless, taking responsibility for actions.
  • Focused, such as sticking to the issue of concern, not bringing up irrelevant material.
  • Persistent, such as repeating the expression of feeling in the argument over and over again, standing your ground, self defense.
  • Courageous, such as taking calculated risks, enduring short term discomfort for long term gain, risking displeasure of some people some of the time, taking the lead, not showing fear of other’s anger, standing outside the crowd and owning up to differences, using self-protective skills.
  • Passionate, such as using full power of the body to show intensity of feeling, being excited and motivated, acting dynamically and energetically, initiating change, showing fervent caring, being fiercely protective, enthusing others.
  • Creative, such as thinking quickly, using more wit, spontaneously coming up with new ideas and new views on subject
  • Forgive, such as demonstrating a willingness to hear other people’s anger and grievances, showing an ability to wipe the slate clean once anger has been expressed.
  • Listen to what is being said to you. Anger creates a hostility filter, and often all you can hear is negatively toned.

A common skill used in most anger management programs is learning assertive communication techniques. Assertive communication is the appropriate use of expressing feelings and needs without offending or taking away the rights of others. It is typically started with the use of “I” statements followed by a need statement. For example, “I feel upset when you don’t take my feelings into consideration when you talk about your past relationships. I hope you can be more thoughtful and know what you should and should not say the next time.”

With regard to interpersonal anger, Dr. Eva L. Feindler[1] recommends that people try, in the heat of an angry moment, to see if they can understand where the alleged perpetrator is coming from. Empathy is very difficult when one is angry but it can make all the difference in the world. Taking the other person’s point of view can be excruciating when in the throes of anger, but with practice it can become second nature. Of course, once the angry person is in conditions of considering the opposite position, then the anger based on righteous indignation tends to disappear.

The main issue of anger management is that anger is regarded as an incorrect projection of the mind, so that wisdom and insight can ultimately correct the mind and eliminate anger completely.

[edit] References

  1. ^ “Anger Management” by Robert W. Westermeyer, Ph.D.

[edit] See also

Retrieved from “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger_management“

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YOUR HURTING BECAUSE YOU DO NOT VISIT OR SEE YOUR CHILDREN- WRITE TO THEM

October 22, 2009

I have received this query, my children have been taken away from me, I miss them, do not know their current address nor where I can send my letters or messages. yOUR SEPARATED OR WHATEVER.  My advise has worked for many clients. write to them and keep two copies in two separate clear books, which you file and give as one day those children will search and find you. give them their copy which will cover the years of no communication. This should work for you. write me hilman1108@yahoo.com

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BAKIT MAY REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH BILL- PARA MABAWASAN AND PINOY NA GUMAMIT NG NATURAL RESOURCES

October 16, 2009

ANG HINDI ALAM NG IBA
Maria Andrea S. Mendigo
 

Ang Reproductive Health Bill ay nagmimistulang isang halimaw na may isang malaking ulo at maraming mababagsik na buntot. Sa siyudad ng Quezon City, ipinasok ang ordinansya ng Reproductive Health sa ilalim ng Poverty Alleviation, o pagbawas sa kadukhaan ng taong-bayan. Ang tema ng mga tumulak sa pagpapasa nitong ordinansya ay: Ang malaking populasyon ay sagabal sa pag-unlad ng bansa dahil namumunga ito ng kahirapan. Ang lunas sa problemang ito, sa kanilang pananaw, ay population control, planned parenthood, sex education sa murang edad ng kabataan, artificial contraception at abortion. Ang artificial contraception at abortion ay ipinalalabas na mahalagang elemento ng kalusugan ng panganganak (reproductive health).

 

Ang tanong: Sino talaga ang makikinabang sa pagbawas ng mga tao sa Pilipinas? Ang mga Pilipino ba, o ang isang dayuhang gobyerno?

 

Noong 2004, ika-30 anibersaryo ng NSSM200, nanawagan ang Human Life International kay Presidente George Bush na itigil ang pamamalakad ng USA tungkol sa population control sa iba’t ibang bansa.

 

Ano ang NSSM200? Ito ay isang documento na iniulat noong Disyembre 10, 1974 ng United States National Security Council at pinamagatang National Security Study Memorandum 200 . Kamakailan lang na-declassify itong documento. Si Henry Kissinger ay ang Secretary of State at National Security Adviser ni Presidente Richard Nixon noon.

 

Ayon sa Human Life International, ito ang ilan sa kapansin-pansin na layunin at aksyon ng Estados Unidos sa ilalim ng NSSM200.

 

a) Kailangan ng USA ang malawak na access sa mahalagang likas na kayamanan ng mga bansang di pa nakaka-angat (less developed countries – LDC’s) .

 

b) Ang daloy ng mga kayamanang ito na papasok sa USA ay maaaring mahadlang ng mga gobyerno ng LDC, paghimagsik ng manggagawa, sabotahe, at gulo na sanhi ng masikip na populasyon.

 

c) Ang kabataan mas marahil ay hahamon sa imperialismo at mga istraktura ng kapangyarihan, kaya dapat pigilin ang pagdami nila.

 

d) Ang gobyernong USA ay dapat hikayatin ang mga lider ng mga LDC na ipairal ang population control, kahit na labag sa kagustuhan ng taong-bayan.

 

Ayon sa NSSM200, ito ang mga dapat gawin para maipatupad ang layuning ito:

 

1)      Kilalanin ang 13 bansang mabilis ang paglaki ng populasyon – India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nigeria, Mexico, Indonesia, Brazil, Philippines, Thailand, Egypt, Turkey, Ethiopia, Colombia – kung saan may interes ang USA na pulitikal at strategic.

2)      Magpatulong sa lalong maraming population-control organizations para sa pandaigdigang proyektong ito.

3)      Akuin na wala pang bansang nagtagumpay sa pagpigil sa pagdami ng populasyon kung hindi ginagamit ang abortion (paglalaglag).

4)      Magbigay ng salapi bilang gantimpala sa mga bansang nagpro-promote ng abortion, ligation, vasectomy, hysterectomy, at artificial contraception sa pamamagitan ng mga programa ng UN, USAID, UNFPA.

5)      Turuan ang mga bata sa mga bansang ito tungkol sa di kanais-nais na panganganak.

6)      Magtatag ng mga sex-education curriculum at propaganda ukol sa lalong mainam na maliit na pamilya, kahit na pwede pang  suportahan ang mas maraming anak, lalo na sa mga bansa na makikinabang sa mas malaking populasyon tulad ng Nigeria at Brazil.

7)      Pag-aralan kung paano mapipilitan ang mga LDC na magtatag ng population control program.

8)      Pag-aralan ang iba’t ibang paraan sa pagpilit sa LDC, tulad ng di-pagbigay ng tulong pag may disaster o kakulangan ng pagkain.

 

Habang isinasagawa ito, ayon sa NSSM200, ang USA ay dapat itago ang kanyang tunay na layunin at ipalabas na ang kanyang ginagawa ay para sa kabutihan ng mga LDC. Kung hindi, mapapahamak siya sa mga bansang ito. May isa pang katotohanan na dapat itago: Ang suporta para sa mga programang pangkalusugan at development ay lumiliit habang ang suporta para sa population control ay lumalaki.

 

Noong 1984, si Presidente Reagan ay pumirma ng isang kasulatan na tinawag

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